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Because you can

date: 09·02·22mood: clear-eyedlocation: homelistening: faded/2am (feat. GoldLink) - extended - Lila Drew

The reward for doing something well is more of it. I learned this early and keep relearning it. Be fast and you inherit the slow person’s pile. Be reliable and you become the default owner of anything that can’t be allowed to fail.

It arrives dressed as a compliment. You’re so good at this. You explain things so clearly. It’s just faster when you do it. All true, probably. None of it an actual reason the task should be mine.

Meanwhile the standard bends only one way. The person still learning gets grace, extended indefinitely. The capable person gets expectations, extended indefinitely. The bar stays exactly where it is no matter how full the plate gets, and theirs drops every time someone says give them time.

I felt this at 21, in my first real job, when I finished my work accurately and fast, went home on time, and got passed over for promotion because I only worked 9 to 5. The output was never the measure. The performance was. That stung, and it taught me to watch where my effort actually goes and what it buys.

Being capable is a genuine advantage right up until it becomes a job description nobody wrote down. I’ve learned to notice the moment helping hardens into expectation. That moment matters more than the helping does.